12 January 2011

Teenagers...

First I will start with the thought that I have some pretty great kids.

However, it seems like they go into hiding somewhere in their teens and are replaced with a selfish, self centered, snotty monster.  I know I wasn't the perfect daughter, but when I was young, there were certain things you knew never to do.  Here they are:
  • Don't sass if you are asking for a favor.
  • F's are just not acceptable - avoid or be VERY scared if you come home with one.
  • Stomping and slamming = grounded - period.
  • When the answer is "no", and you have dared to ask for a clarification and get "no" again - stop asking or you will get a previous "yes" turned to "no" as well.
  • Having a car, paid insurance, designer wardrobe and a paid membership to a club are not necessities and are not expectations of your parents - get a job!
  • You go to school unless you are throwing up, fever over 101 or are dead.  If it happens to be canceled - thank God - it doesn't usually happen more than once in your educational career.
  • All toys (even expensive electronic ones) can & will be taken away if they are being abused, you are not meeting your grades or if they are causing distraction of any kind - parent's determine what is distracting (like not listening to "no" the first time).
  • Just because you "want" something, be it clothes, a ride, money, etc. does not mean you are entitled to it.
  • Carpooling - learn it, do it.  Parents didn't sign up for a 2nd job of your personal taxi.
  • Never come home pregnant.  Don't even consider putting yourself in a position to become pregnant - it is not socially acceptable in your household no matter what the media advocates.
Thankfully, my kids haven't really pushed the envelope on all of these, but there just seems to be a different attitude among today's teenagers.  I wasn't perfect, far from it, but I understood the basic ground rules and respected the fact that the consequences wouldn't be pretty if I stepped out of line on these basics.